Yakima woman finds herself in mixed martial arts world

“I was too afraid — there were no girls doing that,” the 34-year-old said one recent afternoon.

During those years, she was quiet and mostly kept to herself.

“The less attention you bring yourself, the safer you are,” Clayton said of how she once thought.

But a broken heart followed by a sense of being lost — not knowing who she was — smashed Clayton’s perception of herself and motivated her to become what she’s always been, a fighter.

At age 30, Clayton climbed into the cage for her first Mixed Martial Arts fight — she won by knockout in 40 seconds. From there, she built a 7-3 amateur record in MMA fighting and along the way collected 19 gold medals at Brazilian Jujitsu tournaments across the country.

In April, Clayton — a habitat restoration biologist for Yakama Nation Fisheries — embarked on a professional MMA career in Great Falls, Montana, where she lost a crowd-pleasing close decision to Serena DeJesus.

But Clayton isn’t hanging her head — instead, she’s preparing for her next pro fight scheduled for July 23 at the Emerald Queen Casino in Tacoma.

“I love these experiences because they help me know myself better,” she said. “Every fight is a learning experience.”

Clayton’s heart was broken when her boyfriend ended their seven-year relationship. She was 25 at the time and felt she had lost most of herself when the relationship ended.

“That’s when I realized that I didn’t know who I was,” she said. “I didn’t know what I liked to do. I started going to therapy.”

She decided to keep busy and started working for the Yakama Nation and tended bar on weekends. She also completed a bachelor’s degree in science and a master’s in environmental science.

But she still felt lost.

“My degrees didn’t solve it,” Clayton said. “I should be happy, I should feel proud. But I didn’t feel happy. I think I finally realized I wasn’t dealing with my issues.”

Clayton began taking a deep look inside. She learned that she built a life on trying to please others, doing what she thought was expected of her. She thought she was supposed to get married and have children, and that her life would be a failure if she didn’t.

She also prided herself on being the first person there whenever a crisis occurred.

Even when Clayton started training in fighting, she’d let her desire to come to the rescue of others pull her away from the gym for long periods of time.

Clayton learned she was co-dependent.

“I was self-sacrificing,” she said. “I needed to feel needed and wanted to be liked. For a long time, my whole life, I don’t think I was ever happy.

“I just always felt (bad) about myself and that’s why I needed that validation. I felt unlovable.”

Clayton quit bartending. She said she only did it because it helped her come out of her shell, but in reality it provided a false sense of security.

“I felt like I could pretend to be someone else because I’m not outgoing at all,” she said. “But I could pretend I was.”

She didn’t date, and began freaking out about turning 30.

At 29, she made decision to take action for herself — and fight.

“I found something I wanted to do that had nothing to do with anyone else,” she said.

She began setting boundaries with others, including family.

Along the way, she gained a deeper understanding of herself. She began to accept the solid, strong frame she’s always had and the physical abilities that came with it.

“I went through this period of accepting myself,” she said. “I could be myself.”

And so it was, with a 40-second knockout in her amateur debut at 30.

One recent evening at Yakima Mixed Martial Arts in southeast Yakima, Clayton drove thunderous punches and kicks into a striking bag held by a stout man. Each strike echoed throughout the spacious gym on Ranch Rite Road in East Yakima.

There, she often grapples and spars with men.

“I work in a field dominated by men and I train with men,” she quipped. “I think it makes my life better.”

Clayton even started dating again — her boyfriend is local MMA fighter Tony Solis.

They share their lives with each other but have their own space and identities, she said.

“It’s the first healthy relationship I’ve had in my life — I’m 34,” she said.

Rich Guerin, owner and operator of Yakima MMA, sees promise in her fighting career.

“What she shows in the cage is only half of what she has,” said Guerin, who trained former UFC champion Miesha Tate early in her career.

Guerin said Clayton sometimes thinks too much and that causes her to hesitate a bit.

“If we can get her to shut down the analytical part of her a little bit, I think we’ll have something,” he said. “She’s got the gifts to do it.”

Guerin said he’s learned from her. She tends to be liberal-minded while he’s more conservative.

“We butt heads jokingly about that,” he said. “But she’s kind of helped my compassionate nerve soften up a little bit.”

In the gym, they call her Skittles because she’s always eating the candy. She’s taken Skittles as her fight name; she says it not only represents her lighter side but also the rainbow colors representing diversity.

“And I wanted to wear the rainbow,” Clayton said. “I’m all about making room for many different kinds of people and trying to advocate for groups less socially accepted.”

Clayton isn’t shy about sharing her past struggles with others.

“If I can help somebody else in life, I’m going to show my scars,” she said.